I used to have a one-man architectural firm many decades ago. I had an attorney client one time that was very demanding; I worked extremely hard for him, night & day. I produced two separated designs, one remodel of an existing building and one for a new structure. I held a very successful bid process, brought the project in on budget, and I thought my $28,000 fee would make me well again for I was struggling to feed my family. My client went nuts in a profanity-laced rant, he refused to award the construction contract, refused to talk to me, and he refused to pay his contractually obligated debt. I found an attorney who didn’t mind suing one of his peers, who also wanted his home remodeled. Was this a break in my string of bad luck? I didn’t have any money to bring a law suit against my lawyer client; so the attorney wishing to remodel his home and I setup a barter arrangement. I was committed to follow-through with this law suit, especially as I looked into the faces of my wife and daughters who this dead-beat attorney had hurt by not honoring his obligation. I found out it was all sport for him, for he had hurt many other architects as well.
Four years later the suit had never made it to the courtroom, though I was on the court docket a few times. My attorney seemed to always have a court scheduling conflict; he always took the other case and postponed mine. I should have known that attorneys protect their own and they certainly know how to use the system to their own benefit. Of course, I had performed my barter duties as agreed; it looked like my attorney was going to not honor his side of the agreement. There is no honor among thieves. Some would say our court system is the best in the world; may be so, but with no money there is no support for “the little guy” in our court system.
Praying one day, I felt I needed peace in my life; over the four years I had recovered from the massive impact on my home and business. I decided to forgive the attorneys and drop the suit. After “saying” I forgive my dead-beat client, it took a full year for me to actually mean it. You see, many a Christian will say they forgive, but if your emotions flare up when you see that person, you haven’t forgiven them. Can you honestly wish your foe well in a face-to-face meeting with no rise in adrenaline? If you answer “yes” then you have forgiven them; if you answer “no” then you carry a burden still and you haven’t forgiven them. One thing for sure, you can’t do anything about a creep, but you can do something with your own life; don’t let the creeps ruin your life, that is giving them too much power! Forgive and bring peace to YOUR life.